Part 11 of “The Escort Hiring Guide”
You’ll need to choose the right type of guy, depending on what type of domination you want.
Domination can range from the games of BDSM, to the extremes of being bullied by a straight guy who thinks you’re disgusting. For the former, you will easily find an escort. For the latter, he’ll be much harder to find, adverts on Locanto, or FabSwingers are okay places to look.
If you’re looking for a full BDSM experience, then go for someone who is clearly pro at it. Some escorts have rooms full of toys, or will meet you at a dungeon venue. Personally, I’m more into natural domination, overpowering someone, and improvising with rope, tape, belts, etc. But also open to experimenting with BDSM toys, etc.
You might want an escort to genuinely enjoy treating you like shit. Or you might just want the roleplay of it, so you feel safe. This is where you need to be aware of the how the escort is reacting. Most escorts will respond by treating you how they think you want them to treat you. So his focus will still in reality be on making you happy, so you stay as a client.
You might want him to genuinely behave how HE WANTS to behave, instead of how he thinks you want him to behave. That’s where things can get dangerous, because you never truly know what someone really wants, and how he will interpret your request, especially if you say something like “no limits”.
It’s understandable if you want that, there is a massive thrill in giving yourself fully to someone in that way. Especially with the adrenaline buzz that comes with the hyperaware state you will be in, due to facing unknown dangers, and from someone you are horny for.
Most people want this from the super hot, mean as fuck, chav, drug dealer type. Guys like that are unpredictable, and might have issues in their lives that make them angry and more likely to get a thrill out of hurting people. They will be pro at doing bad shit, and getting away with it. Remember you’re poking a lion if you meet those types.
You can get a good enough experience without you having to put yourself in that danger. A good escort will make it feel like it’s real, and if he thinks you like being scared like that, he will play on it, and make you feel like he is unpredictable in moments to give you that fear thrill.
Be clear with him about your limits.
If you want more intense domination including outside of meets, you’ll need to be paying more, and differently.
To show them you are looking for this casual mental kind of domination, you can say things like, “you deserve my money”. You can send them small payments, and each time, explain or hint at different things you like. So for example, send £10, and say “I bet your pits smell amazing after the gym”. Remember that if you say these kinds of things without sending payments, it will just annoy him.
If he is up for dominating you how you want, he will try to respond in a way that makes it worth the money for you.
The more you pay, the more you will excite him, and the more you’ll encourage him to think of imaginative ways to abuse you.
You can experiment with what you like, and explore different ways to be used or humiliated by him.
This can lead into financial domination, which you may or may not want. Many escorts will obviously be happy with this. You can be clear with your limits if you don’t want this, and the escort will probably respect your limits, because he’ll want to keep you as a client. You might be thinking you wouldn’t want that straight away, but would be open to it as you get closer to the guy.
Findom can be things like paying his bills, reimbursing his shopping receipts, and sending him daily/weekly/monthly payments (fag tax).
The ultimate financial domination is when you give him access to your bank, and even go as far as giving your full wage to him. This then gives him complete control over you, and means you will be completely dependant on him. You can discuss the minimum you need each month to cover bills. And then beyond that, you have to accept that he could leave you with nothing else if he feels like it.
You can trial this for a month to see if you like it, and accept that the money in the bank is at risk. That month you can both find an understanding of what is acceptable. Remember it will take a lot of his time, if he has to know everything you are spending and need. So the amount he takes, has to be worth his time. And on your side, the amount he takes has to be worth the enjoyment you are getting out of it.
At the extremes of it, he can take all your money, and leave you begging for the money you need for food. He can ‘make’ you do things to earn back that money…
The reason that isn’t real blackmail is because each month, by giving him access to your bank and telling him he is in control, you are effectively paying him everything in that bank account for a service (in the eyes of the law). At the end of each month you have the opportunity to end the agreement, by removing his access to your bank.
The ways he can control and abuse you in this situation are infinite. And he will see it as completely worth his time while he is devising more ways to torment you, and improving at it. The more you think about what is possible, the more you will understand why people like it.
Even the nicest people, will find it amusing that you are willing to give them complete control of your finances. That, with knowing that being bullied makes you happy, he will likely find it funny when you are desperate for things, and will enjoy finding new ways to torment you.
That’s a reason people like financial domination, because it brings out a more kind of genuine domination, and so you will connect more with the escort.
Be aware that this kind of deep domination can fuck with your mind, in ways you need to consider for yourself. And it can be very addictive. You can get extremely emotionally attached, and the escort can then take advantage of that. For that reason, it could be argued that a grey area exists in the legality.
It’s a rabbit hole. And we’ll leave that there.
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